Good relationship advice for any woman should include the importance of Communication. Communication is the key to any healthy relationship. Open and honest communication builds a foundation that all other aspects of the union are built upon. Distance and dissappointment will result if a culture of open dialogue between partners is not maintained.
In the beginning of any relationship, communication is free and easy. You both enjoy being with each other and look forward to the next time you can share time with each other. Over time, and through the complications of marriage, children, bills, and in-laws, dialogue between the two can wain.
Listening is the key to communication. Don't ignore or reject what your partner is saying. Really listen to what they are trying to tell you. Chances are, it's important to them, and therefore, should also be to you.Not listening is the direct road to disconnection by one or both of you.No relationship can survive disconnection.
Watch what you say to one another. Words floated off the cuff can not be taken back. Your relationship lives on the tip of your tongue. Words said in anger or rashness can do irreparable damage. Research shows that five positive things that you say to your partner, are destroyed by one negative remark.
It is important that you tell your partner each day how much they mean to you. Words of affection and affirmation are important in keeping your partner happy and connected to you. Tenderness is always better than ridicule or arrogance. Whisper words of love to your partner, and your relationship growth is guaranteed.
Nurture and cultivate a healthy love life. Couples who have good communication can identify and work through problems much easier than those who do not. Different outlooks and goals can be accomidated when two people are able to be honest and open with each other.
Make it a goal to work on this everyday. The relationship you save may be your own!
LoveandRelationshipSource.com
Relationship Check-up
Thursday, June 11, 2009
Tuesday, June 9, 2009
The 3 Biggest Obstacles To Getting Back Together
Wanna know what’s keeping you from getting back together with your ex?
Chances are it is one of the top 3 reasons couples do not get back together.
1. Fear. Fear of rejection. Fear of being hurt. Fear of what your ex will say. Fear of putting yourself out there “on the line.” Fear of the unknown — what COULD happen!
It’s enough to hinder you to the point of inaction.
But the fact remains, if you don’t “put yourself out there” sometimes, you won’t get anywhere. No risk, no reward.
Don’t be afraid. As long as you avoid the mistakes from the Biggest Breakup Mistakes series, only good things can happen!
2. Pride. This runs neck and neck with fear as a top reason couples are unable to get back together.
Let’s face it, at the end of a relationship, things are said and done which are often regrettable.
Our feelings are hurt. Our egos are damaged. And in order to recover and cope with the breakup, we cling to our pride.
Add to that our basic human desire to be “right.”
We desperately want to believe that we are in the right, and our ex is in the wrong.
It’s our way of telling ourselves that we are ok. There’s nothing wrong with this. We are ok and it’s good that we think well of ourselves during tough times like this.
But often our pride prevents us from moving int he right direction with our ex’s.
It prevents us from saying how we REALLY feel. Or it prevents us from really tackling the core reason why you broke up in the first place.
Frankly, we would be best served by humbling ourselves and opening ourselves up to our special someone. If your ex is indeed your true love, you should be able to demonstrate humility, let go of your pride and be completely open and honest.
If you are can overcome your pride, then chances are you can overlook past mistakes and forgive your ex. Or maybe it will give you the strength to ask for forgiveness yourself if it is needed. Or it will help you to tackle the real issues that are keeping you apart.
3. Inability to overcome obstacles.
Many times we allow an obstacle to get in the way of reconciling. It’s just too easy to say “oh well, I tried.” I know because I’ve done it!
But in the end, there’s a solution for every obstacle. That’s right, every one of them.
Despite what the gurus would have you believe, there are no solutions that work 100% of the time, simply because we all possess free will to do as we please. If anyone tells you otherwise, run (don’t walk) in the other direction!
That said, there are things we can do to overcome all obstacles. For every situation, there is a solution.
Let me say that again….
For every situation, there is a solution.
I have seen miracles in my own relationships, and now I have seen it play out successfully for thousands around the world who have learned the do’s and dont’s from this newsletter and Win Back Love.
Please give it a try now and see for yourself –
Chances are it is one of the top 3 reasons couples do not get back together.
1. Fear. Fear of rejection. Fear of being hurt. Fear of what your ex will say. Fear of putting yourself out there “on the line.” Fear of the unknown — what COULD happen!
It’s enough to hinder you to the point of inaction.
But the fact remains, if you don’t “put yourself out there” sometimes, you won’t get anywhere. No risk, no reward.
Don’t be afraid. As long as you avoid the mistakes from the Biggest Breakup Mistakes series, only good things can happen!
2. Pride. This runs neck and neck with fear as a top reason couples are unable to get back together.
Let’s face it, at the end of a relationship, things are said and done which are often regrettable.
Our feelings are hurt. Our egos are damaged. And in order to recover and cope with the breakup, we cling to our pride.
Add to that our basic human desire to be “right.”
We desperately want to believe that we are in the right, and our ex is in the wrong.
It’s our way of telling ourselves that we are ok. There’s nothing wrong with this. We are ok and it’s good that we think well of ourselves during tough times like this.
But often our pride prevents us from moving int he right direction with our ex’s.
It prevents us from saying how we REALLY feel. Or it prevents us from really tackling the core reason why you broke up in the first place.
Frankly, we would be best served by humbling ourselves and opening ourselves up to our special someone. If your ex is indeed your true love, you should be able to demonstrate humility, let go of your pride and be completely open and honest.
If you are can overcome your pride, then chances are you can overlook past mistakes and forgive your ex. Or maybe it will give you the strength to ask for forgiveness yourself if it is needed. Or it will help you to tackle the real issues that are keeping you apart.
3. Inability to overcome obstacles.
Many times we allow an obstacle to get in the way of reconciling. It’s just too easy to say “oh well, I tried.” I know because I’ve done it!
But in the end, there’s a solution for every obstacle. That’s right, every one of them.
Despite what the gurus would have you believe, there are no solutions that work 100% of the time, simply because we all possess free will to do as we please. If anyone tells you otherwise, run (don’t walk) in the other direction!
That said, there are things we can do to overcome all obstacles. For every situation, there is a solution.
Let me say that again….
For every situation, there is a solution.
I have seen miracles in my own relationships, and now I have seen it play out successfully for thousands around the world who have learned the do’s and dont’s from this newsletter and Win Back Love.
Please give it a try now and see for yourself –
Tuesday, June 2, 2009
Relationship Advice for Women: Be Careful of Comparing Your Mate to Others
When women begin to question a relationship, it changes the way we look at everything. We focus on the little or not so little things about our spouse that we find mildly irritating or downright maddening. And for good or bad we will make comparisons.
Over the life of a marriage we will inevitably find ourselves spending time with other men to whom we are attracted. Each day we are exposed to a variety of people; at work, at the playground, the grocery store, business trips, airports, etc. There will inevitably be people of the opposite sex that we find attractive around us. As our society continues to break down gender-based barriers to men and women’s freedom to choose how they live and work, we will increasingly find ourselves in such situations.
Now finding another person attractive shouldn’t be a problem. There will no doubt be any number of men we are attracted too that we interact with. It becomes a problem, however, when it leads us to question our current relationship, or when we decide to act on our new attraction.
These comparisons are not particularly fair to our mate, but we do it anyway. And the longer we’ve been married, the more we do these comparisons.
There are very good reasons to take a long, hard look at a marriage or relationship. It is healthy to do so. But we should not gloss over things about our relationship that we might want to change.
Comparing the mate with whom we’ve spent years with to someone else we might only see a few hours a week, doesn’t really tell us all that much. Most of the time, that attractive neighbor, co-worker, classmate, or whoever will bring just as much irritations or problems to a relationship as our current partner.
What we need to do is use our comparison-based critique to consider what we could make better about our marriage.
When our attraction goes from comparison to action, we are in even more trouble. Trying an extramarital affair, we will be unable to view either clearly. Love, especially new love, is really blind. We will not see the many faults in our new partner, that are inevitably there. Remember the old saying, the grass isn’t always greener.
Don’t worry all that much when you find yourself attracted to a person you’re not in a relationship with. Instead try falling back in love with your spouse before you fall in love with someone else.
If you want to learn proven methods to increase the happiness and satisfaction with your mate, I recommend reading Bob Grant’s new e-book; What Husband Can’t Resist
Also check out LoveandRelationshipSource.com
Over the life of a marriage we will inevitably find ourselves spending time with other men to whom we are attracted. Each day we are exposed to a variety of people; at work, at the playground, the grocery store, business trips, airports, etc. There will inevitably be people of the opposite sex that we find attractive around us. As our society continues to break down gender-based barriers to men and women’s freedom to choose how they live and work, we will increasingly find ourselves in such situations.
Now finding another person attractive shouldn’t be a problem. There will no doubt be any number of men we are attracted too that we interact with. It becomes a problem, however, when it leads us to question our current relationship, or when we decide to act on our new attraction.
- If we compare how our spouse looks at 6 a.m. with how our co-worker looks at 10 a.m.
- If we compare the conversation we had with an attractive classmate about the interesting subject were studying, with the conversation with our spouse after four hours of wrestling the kids to bed, doing the dishes, folding laundry, and picking up the family room.
- If we compare two hours of sitting in the sun with another parent watching soccer practice with two hours sitting around the kitchen table with our spouse, paying the bills and balancing the checkbook.
- If we compare the 21 year old who spends an two hours a day at the gym with the 40 year old who is out of shape but works two jobs to pay the bills.
These comparisons are not particularly fair to our mate, but we do it anyway. And the longer we’ve been married, the more we do these comparisons.
There are very good reasons to take a long, hard look at a marriage or relationship. It is healthy to do so. But we should not gloss over things about our relationship that we might want to change.
Comparing the mate with whom we’ve spent years with to someone else we might only see a few hours a week, doesn’t really tell us all that much. Most of the time, that attractive neighbor, co-worker, classmate, or whoever will bring just as much irritations or problems to a relationship as our current partner.
What we need to do is use our comparison-based critique to consider what we could make better about our marriage.
- Maybe we need to get all dressed up and go out on the town now and then.
- Maybe we need to talk about more than just the day-to-day household management.
- Maybe we need to balance the checkbook some other time and spend that end-of-the-day time cuddling on the couch.
- Maybe we need to head down to the gym together.
When our attraction goes from comparison to action, we are in even more trouble. Trying an extramarital affair, we will be unable to view either clearly. Love, especially new love, is really blind. We will not see the many faults in our new partner, that are inevitably there. Remember the old saying, the grass isn’t always greener.
Don’t worry all that much when you find yourself attracted to a person you’re not in a relationship with. Instead try falling back in love with your spouse before you fall in love with someone else.
If you want to learn proven methods to increase the happiness and satisfaction with your mate, I recommend reading Bob Grant’s new e-book; What Husband Can’t Resist
Also check out LoveandRelationshipSource.com
Wednesday, May 27, 2009
Relationship Review: Steps to Safeguard Your Marriage
Diagnosing Problems in Your Marriage
It is amazing how we will spend so much time checking out which jeans to buy or which computer has the best peripherals. But we don’t spend nearly the same amount of time or energy exploring the health of our relationships. We assume that things are fine, until there is a problem.
A good analogy is how we treat our cars. Some people spend hundreds or thousands of dollars fixing up, maintaining, cleaning, washing, polishing, etc. until it shines like a top, and looks better than new.
Then there are those who completely neglect their auto, they forget to change the oil, no tune ups, have no idea what an air filter is or does. It hasn’t been washed or cleaned in months or even years. The car looks much older and more worn out than it should.
So who do you think is going to have problems? Which car is going to run like a top, and which one do you have to worry may not get you through the next stop light? Just like a car needs regular maintenance, your relationship does as well!
Relationship Advice
Time for a Check Up!
How do you do regular maintenance of your relationship? It starts with a game plan. You and your mate can decide to “check-in” once a week, every two weeks, or monthly. Whatever works best for your situationPut it on your calendar, just like any other special event. If you don’t right it down, you may forget it, and forget it for a long time. This is as important as anything you put on your calendar, so DO IT!
Plan to talk at least half and hour, with a 10 minute overtime, if needed. This will allow enough time to cover the important points so the woman are happy, and it’s short enough that the men don’t get frustrated. It’s important time for each of you to really listen and give it your best. No T.V. or radio. Send the kids outside or put them to bed. Don't answer the phone and ignore the doorbell. This is your time as a couple.
Game Plan
To start, do a check in exercise. Let your partner know the positive things you noticed in the relationship. Little things count – remember you are trying to improve your partnership. Studies have shown that there is a 5:1 ratio between positive and negative. That means that you can say 5 positive things to your mate, and then 1 negative will wipe out the 5 positive. Negatives have that much weight!!
Next, move to areas that could be improved. It is important to remain positive if you expect to get anywhere. As and example, you might word suggestions like “I really appreciate how your helping with the dishes; if you could help me with supper some nights, that would really help me out”. You would not get the same result if you said “Your still not helping with the dishes; and I’m tired of being the one who always cooks!”
When your ready, move on to some of the needs you may have. It’s okay to tell your mate about your needs. We all have needs, and want them to be respected, and hopefully met. You do not have the right to demand your needs are met. However, how you ask will go a long way in getting them addressed by your mate. Asking “I” statements are really important. Something like “I would feel better if when I cooked supper, that you said thank you and helped me clean up”. By not demanding, you allow your mate to process this information, and maybe come to a realization that these are important to you. He may not even know.
Finally, if you have had a conflict recently, this may be a good time to talk about it. However, if emotions are still running high about the issue, it may be best to wait until the next check-up time. It is important to deal with it, and not leave it unresolved, as this tends to come back up. Possibly, during the next conflict, making the situation even worse.
Once you have an understanding of each other’s perspectives, you can come to some kind of understanding or compromises. Sometimes, you realize that if you had seen it in the same way as your mate, there would not have been a conflict in the first place. Better communication between you is the goal of this exercise.
Finally, if there is time leftover, you might talk about things you want to watch for until your next check in. It is always good to be aware of things that may catch either of you of guard, and lead to future issues.
If you would like further help in strengthening your partnership, I would ask that you click on the following this link.
It is amazing how we will spend so much time checking out which jeans to buy or which computer has the best peripherals. But we don’t spend nearly the same amount of time or energy exploring the health of our relationships. We assume that things are fine, until there is a problem.
A good analogy is how we treat our cars. Some people spend hundreds or thousands of dollars fixing up, maintaining, cleaning, washing, polishing, etc. until it shines like a top, and looks better than new.
Then there are those who completely neglect their auto, they forget to change the oil, no tune ups, have no idea what an air filter is or does. It hasn’t been washed or cleaned in months or even years. The car looks much older and more worn out than it should.
So who do you think is going to have problems? Which car is going to run like a top, and which one do you have to worry may not get you through the next stop light? Just like a car needs regular maintenance, your relationship does as well!
Relationship Advice
Time for a Check Up!
How do you do regular maintenance of your relationship? It starts with a game plan. You and your mate can decide to “check-in” once a week, every two weeks, or monthly. Whatever works best for your situationPut it on your calendar, just like any other special event. If you don’t right it down, you may forget it, and forget it for a long time. This is as important as anything you put on your calendar, so DO IT!
Plan to talk at least half and hour, with a 10 minute overtime, if needed. This will allow enough time to cover the important points so the woman are happy, and it’s short enough that the men don’t get frustrated. It’s important time for each of you to really listen and give it your best. No T.V. or radio. Send the kids outside or put them to bed. Don't answer the phone and ignore the doorbell. This is your time as a couple.
Game Plan
To start, do a check in exercise. Let your partner know the positive things you noticed in the relationship. Little things count – remember you are trying to improve your partnership. Studies have shown that there is a 5:1 ratio between positive and negative. That means that you can say 5 positive things to your mate, and then 1 negative will wipe out the 5 positive. Negatives have that much weight!!
Next, move to areas that could be improved. It is important to remain positive if you expect to get anywhere. As and example, you might word suggestions like “I really appreciate how your helping with the dishes; if you could help me with supper some nights, that would really help me out”. You would not get the same result if you said “Your still not helping with the dishes; and I’m tired of being the one who always cooks!”
When your ready, move on to some of the needs you may have. It’s okay to tell your mate about your needs. We all have needs, and want them to be respected, and hopefully met. You do not have the right to demand your needs are met. However, how you ask will go a long way in getting them addressed by your mate. Asking “I” statements are really important. Something like “I would feel better if when I cooked supper, that you said thank you and helped me clean up”. By not demanding, you allow your mate to process this information, and maybe come to a realization that these are important to you. He may not even know.
Finally, if you have had a conflict recently, this may be a good time to talk about it. However, if emotions are still running high about the issue, it may be best to wait until the next check-up time. It is important to deal with it, and not leave it unresolved, as this tends to come back up. Possibly, during the next conflict, making the situation even worse.
Once you have an understanding of each other’s perspectives, you can come to some kind of understanding or compromises. Sometimes, you realize that if you had seen it in the same way as your mate, there would not have been a conflict in the first place. Better communication between you is the goal of this exercise.
Finally, if there is time leftover, you might talk about things you want to watch for until your next check in. It is always good to be aware of things that may catch either of you of guard, and lead to future issues.
If you would like further help in strengthening your partnership, I would ask that you click on the following this link.
Monday, May 25, 2009
Marriage In Crisis: "I Don't Love You Anymore"!
My Husband has fallen out of Love with me!?
Out of the blue, you hear those painful words, and your world changes instantly. So what has caused this change? Why does their partner now want to leave and distance himself fromthe marriage? How is it possible to be in love one day, and not the next?
Usually when a spouse or partner “falls out of love” there is multiple reasons. Think about some of the trouble spots in your relationship: Is your sex life Ok? How are your finances? Communication between you? The kids? In-laws? You see the point. It’s not just one thing, but can be many things all culminating into the feelings of him not wanting to be together anymore. This has probably been a struggle for him for some time. He has struggled to find a way to bring it up, and finally has found the courage to let it be known to you.
Have you sat down and talked about your issues? Sometimes bringing the issues out and into the open is enough to get the ball moving. It is when we begin to talk and start to understand how are partner is thinking, that real change can be achieved. The issues become more focused, and we are better able to begin to work on things.
Even if the husband doesn't want to work on things. Even if he feels like the relationship is beyond fixing and no chance for reconsiliation is possible? Remember, nothing is impossible! Even if he isn't interested, there is still time to do the work needed to change his mind.
Be confident in yourself and in your relationship to work things through. Be patient, as things will not be fixed overnight. Have faith that by spending the time working on yourself and your relationship, things can turn around. These are important tools in healing a marriage or relationship.
What Husbands Can't Resist
Out of the blue, you hear those painful words, and your world changes instantly. So what has caused this change? Why does their partner now want to leave and distance himself fromthe marriage? How is it possible to be in love one day, and not the next?
Usually when a spouse or partner “falls out of love” there is multiple reasons. Think about some of the trouble spots in your relationship: Is your sex life Ok? How are your finances? Communication between you? The kids? In-laws? You see the point. It’s not just one thing, but can be many things all culminating into the feelings of him not wanting to be together anymore. This has probably been a struggle for him for some time. He has struggled to find a way to bring it up, and finally has found the courage to let it be known to you.
Have you sat down and talked about your issues? Sometimes bringing the issues out and into the open is enough to get the ball moving. It is when we begin to talk and start to understand how are partner is thinking, that real change can be achieved. The issues become more focused, and we are better able to begin to work on things.
Even if the husband doesn't want to work on things. Even if he feels like the relationship is beyond fixing and no chance for reconsiliation is possible? Remember, nothing is impossible! Even if he isn't interested, there is still time to do the work needed to change his mind.
Be confident in yourself and in your relationship to work things through. Be patient, as things will not be fixed overnight. Have faith that by spending the time working on yourself and your relationship, things can turn around. These are important tools in healing a marriage or relationship.
What Husbands Can't Resist
Wednesday, May 20, 2009
The Importance of Sex in a Relationship
A Man has certain physical needs just by the nature of his DNA, and specifically, the hormones that effect him; however, more importantly, on an emotional level, men will tell you that sex is important to them for the same reasons that it is important to a woman. It creates a bond, both emotionally and physically, between two people who care about each other.
If women were able to get inside their man's head, they would be suprised to see that sex is not only a physical act for the sake of pleasure, but a way to form a pure connection with their mate. He will become emotionally dependant upon her. That bond means more to your man than you know. It drives him to do almost anything in his power to make you happy, and maintain that connection. This can empower a woman who is looking to strengthen or repair a relationship. If a woman would take the time to understand the power, pschologically, sex has on her man, she would well on her way to a great relationship.
Women use several thousand more words a day than men do. They are communicators. Women will talk, that is what they do. If an issue arises, women will talk until the issue is resolved. This can take hours or days. Men however tend to bottle up their emotions and keep their feelings inside. They don't like to talk about problems unless they have too. They would much rather brood about it for awhile, and go into their cave, so to speek. This allows them the time to get their head and emotions wrapped around the problem, to come up with a solution. This gives them a feeling of accomplishment, as they can be seen as the problem solver. This also increases the emotional bond between a man and a woman. By allowing the man to feel like he is powerful, both physically and intellectually, a woman provides the feedback a man needs to feel good in relationship.
Women who develop that bond with their husbands will find they have happier more fulfilling marriages than they could have ever dreamed possible. Your husband is less likely to stray and he will become so emotionally connected to you that he will do everything and anything in his power to keep you happy.Rekindle Your Husband's Passion for You
If women were able to get inside their man's head, they would be suprised to see that sex is not only a physical act for the sake of pleasure, but a way to form a pure connection with their mate. He will become emotionally dependant upon her. That bond means more to your man than you know. It drives him to do almost anything in his power to make you happy, and maintain that connection. This can empower a woman who is looking to strengthen or repair a relationship. If a woman would take the time to understand the power, pschologically, sex has on her man, she would well on her way to a great relationship.
Women use several thousand more words a day than men do. They are communicators. Women will talk, that is what they do. If an issue arises, women will talk until the issue is resolved. This can take hours or days. Men however tend to bottle up their emotions and keep their feelings inside. They don't like to talk about problems unless they have too. They would much rather brood about it for awhile, and go into their cave, so to speek. This allows them the time to get their head and emotions wrapped around the problem, to come up with a solution. This gives them a feeling of accomplishment, as they can be seen as the problem solver. This also increases the emotional bond between a man and a woman. By allowing the man to feel like he is powerful, both physically and intellectually, a woman provides the feedback a man needs to feel good in relationship.
Women who develop that bond with their husbands will find they have happier more fulfilling marriages than they could have ever dreamed possible. Your husband is less likely to stray and he will become so emotionally connected to you that he will do everything and anything in his power to keep you happy.Rekindle Your Husband's Passion for You
Fighting is a lose-lose Situation
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When a woman argues with a man, it only makes him dig in and stand his ground. After all, men are innately competitive. It's in their genes, and they are born to compete. That's why, in any argument, he feels he must be the victor. So, even if you have a valid point, arguing with your man may be futile. It will only serve as a wedge that may eventually tear your relationship apart.
The one rule every woman must remember in a conflict with a man is to always be respectful. Be careful of emotionally intense words or tones, as this often causes a man to escalate the conflict. While, ideally, a woman should speak to him calmly and directly in a soft tone during a conflict, the reality is that during such times it can be almost impossible to remain calm when you're upset.
A better rule would be to never compete with a man, even if you have to leave the conversation, room or even the home for a few minutes or hours. While this may seem extreme, it is more effective to remove yourself from a situation that can likely escalate, than it is to remain in that situation which will likely cause emotional damage. There's another reason for this, too, and it may surprise you. The one thing men hate more than anything is to lose face. They will stonewall as a means of saving there self-respect.
Every time a woman creates distance when a man becomes competitive in an argument, she is slowly training him that using his power with her will cause him to be ignored, until he humbles himself. So, the next time the two of you have an issue to discuss, approach him with this in mind. The conversation can continue unless you feel uncomfortable. Even though a man likes time alone, there is a limit to how much alone time they can tolerate. Men enjoy distance when they can control the amount of time apart, but when a woman is unavailable to her husband when he desires her company, then and only then will be begin to realize that he has hurt her.
Stop the cycle of fighting and then having to make up. Find strategies that allow you to come to a conclusion to a problem you will both be happy and excited about. Click Here to learn more ways of building your relationship, instead of breaking it down. Real Conflict Management
When a woman argues with a man, it only makes him dig in and stand his ground. After all, men are innately competitive. It's in their genes, and they are born to compete. That's why, in any argument, he feels he must be the victor. So, even if you have a valid point, arguing with your man may be futile. It will only serve as a wedge that may eventually tear your relationship apart.
The one rule every woman must remember in a conflict with a man is to always be respectful. Be careful of emotionally intense words or tones, as this often causes a man to escalate the conflict. While, ideally, a woman should speak to him calmly and directly in a soft tone during a conflict, the reality is that during such times it can be almost impossible to remain calm when you're upset.
A better rule would be to never compete with a man, even if you have to leave the conversation, room or even the home for a few minutes or hours. While this may seem extreme, it is more effective to remove yourself from a situation that can likely escalate, than it is to remain in that situation which will likely cause emotional damage. There's another reason for this, too, and it may surprise you. The one thing men hate more than anything is to lose face. They will stonewall as a means of saving there self-respect.
Every time a woman creates distance when a man becomes competitive in an argument, she is slowly training him that using his power with her will cause him to be ignored, until he humbles himself. So, the next time the two of you have an issue to discuss, approach him with this in mind. The conversation can continue unless you feel uncomfortable. Even though a man likes time alone, there is a limit to how much alone time they can tolerate. Men enjoy distance when they can control the amount of time apart, but when a woman is unavailable to her husband when he desires her company, then and only then will be begin to realize that he has hurt her.
Stop the cycle of fighting and then having to make up. Find strategies that allow you to come to a conclusion to a problem you will both be happy and excited about. Click Here to learn more ways of building your relationship, instead of breaking it down. Real Conflict Management
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