A Man has certain physical needs just by the nature of his DNA, and specifically, the hormones that effect him; however, more importantly, on an emotional level, men will tell you that sex is important to them for the same reasons that it is important to a woman. It creates a bond, both emotionally and physically, between two people who care about each other.
If women were able to get inside their man's head, they would be suprised to see that sex is not only a physical act for the sake of pleasure, but a way to form a pure connection with their mate. He will become emotionally dependant upon her. That bond means more to your man than you know. It drives him to do almost anything in his power to make you happy, and maintain that connection. This can empower a woman who is looking to strengthen or repair a relationship. If a woman would take the time to understand the power, pschologically, sex has on her man, she would well on her way to a great relationship.
Women use several thousand more words a day than men do. They are communicators. Women will talk, that is what they do. If an issue arises, women will talk until the issue is resolved. This can take hours or days. Men however tend to bottle up their emotions and keep their feelings inside. They don't like to talk about problems unless they have too. They would much rather brood about it for awhile, and go into their cave, so to speek. This allows them the time to get their head and emotions wrapped around the problem, to come up with a solution. This gives them a feeling of accomplishment, as they can be seen as the problem solver. This also increases the emotional bond between a man and a woman. By allowing the man to feel like he is powerful, both physically and intellectually, a woman provides the feedback a man needs to feel good in relationship.
Women who develop that bond with their husbands will find they have happier more fulfilling marriages than they could have ever dreamed possible. Your husband is less likely to stray and he will become so emotionally connected to you that he will do everything and anything in his power to keep you happy.Rekindle Your Husband's Passion for You
Wednesday, May 20, 2009
Fighting is a lose-lose Situation
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When a woman argues with a man, it only makes him dig in and stand his ground. After all, men are innately competitive. It's in their genes, and they are born to compete. That's why, in any argument, he feels he must be the victor. So, even if you have a valid point, arguing with your man may be futile. It will only serve as a wedge that may eventually tear your relationship apart.
The one rule every woman must remember in a conflict with a man is to always be respectful. Be careful of emotionally intense words or tones, as this often causes a man to escalate the conflict. While, ideally, a woman should speak to him calmly and directly in a soft tone during a conflict, the reality is that during such times it can be almost impossible to remain calm when you're upset.
A better rule would be to never compete with a man, even if you have to leave the conversation, room or even the home for a few minutes or hours. While this may seem extreme, it is more effective to remove yourself from a situation that can likely escalate, than it is to remain in that situation which will likely cause emotional damage. There's another reason for this, too, and it may surprise you. The one thing men hate more than anything is to lose face. They will stonewall as a means of saving there self-respect.
Every time a woman creates distance when a man becomes competitive in an argument, she is slowly training him that using his power with her will cause him to be ignored, until he humbles himself. So, the next time the two of you have an issue to discuss, approach him with this in mind. The conversation can continue unless you feel uncomfortable. Even though a man likes time alone, there is a limit to how much alone time they can tolerate. Men enjoy distance when they can control the amount of time apart, but when a woman is unavailable to her husband when he desires her company, then and only then will be begin to realize that he has hurt her.
Stop the cycle of fighting and then having to make up. Find strategies that allow you to come to a conclusion to a problem you will both be happy and excited about. Click Here to learn more ways of building your relationship, instead of breaking it down. Real Conflict Management
When a woman argues with a man, it only makes him dig in and stand his ground. After all, men are innately competitive. It's in their genes, and they are born to compete. That's why, in any argument, he feels he must be the victor. So, even if you have a valid point, arguing with your man may be futile. It will only serve as a wedge that may eventually tear your relationship apart.
The one rule every woman must remember in a conflict with a man is to always be respectful. Be careful of emotionally intense words or tones, as this often causes a man to escalate the conflict. While, ideally, a woman should speak to him calmly and directly in a soft tone during a conflict, the reality is that during such times it can be almost impossible to remain calm when you're upset.
A better rule would be to never compete with a man, even if you have to leave the conversation, room or even the home for a few minutes or hours. While this may seem extreme, it is more effective to remove yourself from a situation that can likely escalate, than it is to remain in that situation which will likely cause emotional damage. There's another reason for this, too, and it may surprise you. The one thing men hate more than anything is to lose face. They will stonewall as a means of saving there self-respect.
Every time a woman creates distance when a man becomes competitive in an argument, she is slowly training him that using his power with her will cause him to be ignored, until he humbles himself. So, the next time the two of you have an issue to discuss, approach him with this in mind. The conversation can continue unless you feel uncomfortable. Even though a man likes time alone, there is a limit to how much alone time they can tolerate. Men enjoy distance when they can control the amount of time apart, but when a woman is unavailable to her husband when he desires her company, then and only then will be begin to realize that he has hurt her.
Stop the cycle of fighting and then having to make up. Find strategies that allow you to come to a conclusion to a problem you will both be happy and excited about. Click Here to learn more ways of building your relationship, instead of breaking it down. Real Conflict Management
Relationship Help For You
To a woman, a man, and specifically his mind can be a complete mystery. Why do the things they do baffle and confuse a woman to no end. It's because men and women think very differently. How do you explain why a completely sane individual will get drunk and play golf for a whole weekend. or spend a beautiful Sunday watching football from morning to night.
Why does it drive a woman crazy that her man would sit and play video games all afternoon rather than spending time with family and friends? Why do women need to "nag" a man to do things around the house, when they seem so obviously needing to be done?
If you find yourself asking these questions, then you will be happy to know that many of the answers to these questions can be found here.
The Balance of Power is Held by the One Who Wants the Relationship the Most!
It is usually the wives -- not the husbands -- who take an active role in improving their marriage. When married couples seek counseling advice, 99% of the time it was the wife's idea. A husband's power in a marriage pales by comparison to the mind-boggling power of his wife!
The woman is the one who constantly monitors the health of the relationship. When things are not going well, the woman will intuitively know, and will make suggestions to improve it. The man will be clueless. This is why men never see "The Bomb" coming until the relationship is so broken, the woman feels no choice but to leave. Understanding that you have the power and the ability to change and therefore elicit the corresponding changes in your spouse should make you feel empowered.
Your husband will not admit to it, but he WANTS you to gain access to his heart, discover his desires, needs and secrets, but he doesn't want to have to tell you to do so. That's because your husband is ill-equipped to tell you what he wants without appearing like an insensitive, selfish, uncaring bastard to you. Neither does he know the psychological reasons why he thinks, speaks or behaves the way he does -- let alone teach you how to behave towards him!
By virtue of simply being your husband's wife -- the woman he chose to marry -- you have at your disposal the power to get inside his head, gain access to his heart and become totally irresistible to him. That's a little-known secret that most wives don't know. Getting your husband to worship the ground you walk on is so much easier than you might imagine. Working on yourself and making changes, will intrigue your mate. It will make him curious as to what is going on with you. Your changes will bring about changes in him, and it will happen both consciously and un-consciously.
How did it get to this point}? It's never because of just one big disagreement, conflict or fight -- it's never just one huge avalanche or storm, but rather the slow, insidious drip-drip-drip of not understanding your husband day after day, and night after night. It's that constant drip (which wives often ignore) that erodes the very foundation of a marriage, just like the continuous drip of a leaky faucet in the dead of night. Pretty soon, without even knowing it, you’re becoming strangers living in the same house. No Love, No Communication, No intimacy, No anything!!!
You have the power to stop this slow deterioration of your relationship. You must be the one to begin the healing, remember, the man is clueless. He has no idea how serious it's become. He doesn’t know why you’re so unhappy with him. Talking becomes “nagging”, so instead begin to work on yourself, and you may be surprised at the results. If you want to learn how, click here
Why does it drive a woman crazy that her man would sit and play video games all afternoon rather than spending time with family and friends? Why do women need to "nag" a man to do things around the house, when they seem so obviously needing to be done?
If you find yourself asking these questions, then you will be happy to know that many of the answers to these questions can be found here.
The Balance of Power is Held by the One Who Wants the Relationship the Most!
It is usually the wives -- not the husbands -- who take an active role in improving their marriage. When married couples seek counseling advice, 99% of the time it was the wife's idea. A husband's power in a marriage pales by comparison to the mind-boggling power of his wife!
The woman is the one who constantly monitors the health of the relationship. When things are not going well, the woman will intuitively know, and will make suggestions to improve it. The man will be clueless. This is why men never see "The Bomb" coming until the relationship is so broken, the woman feels no choice but to leave. Understanding that you have the power and the ability to change and therefore elicit the corresponding changes in your spouse should make you feel empowered.
Your husband will not admit to it, but he WANTS you to gain access to his heart, discover his desires, needs and secrets, but he doesn't want to have to tell you to do so. That's because your husband is ill-equipped to tell you what he wants without appearing like an insensitive, selfish, uncaring bastard to you. Neither does he know the psychological reasons why he thinks, speaks or behaves the way he does -- let alone teach you how to behave towards him!
By virtue of simply being your husband's wife -- the woman he chose to marry -- you have at your disposal the power to get inside his head, gain access to his heart and become totally irresistible to him. That's a little-known secret that most wives don't know. Getting your husband to worship the ground you walk on is so much easier than you might imagine. Working on yourself and making changes, will intrigue your mate. It will make him curious as to what is going on with you. Your changes will bring about changes in him, and it will happen both consciously and un-consciously.
How did it get to this point}? It's never because of just one big disagreement, conflict or fight -- it's never just one huge avalanche or storm, but rather the slow, insidious drip-drip-drip of not understanding your husband day after day, and night after night. It's that constant drip (which wives often ignore) that erodes the very foundation of a marriage, just like the continuous drip of a leaky faucet in the dead of night. Pretty soon, without even knowing it, you’re becoming strangers living in the same house. No Love, No Communication, No intimacy, No anything!!!
You have the power to stop this slow deterioration of your relationship. You must be the one to begin the healing, remember, the man is clueless. He has no idea how serious it's become. He doesn’t know why you’re so unhappy with him. Talking becomes “nagging”, so instead begin to work on yourself, and you may be surprised at the results. If you want to learn how, click here
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