To a woman, a man, and specifically his mind can be a complete mystery. Why do the things they do baffle and confuse a woman to no end. It's because men and women think very differently. How do you explain why a completely sane individual will get drunk and play golf for a whole weekend. or spend a beautiful Sunday watching football from morning to night.
Why does it drive a woman crazy that her man would sit and play video games all afternoon rather than spending time with family and friends? Why do women need to "nag" a man to do things around the house, when they seem so obviously needing to be done?
If you find yourself asking these questions, then you will be happy to know that many of the answers to these questions can be found here.
The Balance of Power is Held by the One Who Wants the Relationship the Most!
It is usually the wives -- not the husbands -- who take an active role in improving their marriage. When married couples seek counseling advice, 99% of the time it was the wife's idea. A husband's power in a marriage pales by comparison to the mind-boggling power of his wife!
The woman is the one who constantly monitors the health of the relationship. When things are not going well, the woman will intuitively know, and will make suggestions to improve it. The man will be clueless. This is why men never see "The Bomb" coming until the relationship is so broken, the woman feels no choice but to leave. Understanding that you have the power and the ability to change and therefore elicit the corresponding changes in your spouse should make you feel empowered.
Your husband will not admit to it, but he WANTS you to gain access to his heart, discover his desires, needs and secrets, but he doesn't want to have to tell you to do so. That's because your husband is ill-equipped to tell you what he wants without appearing like an insensitive, selfish, uncaring bastard to you. Neither does he know the psychological reasons why he thinks, speaks or behaves the way he does -- let alone teach you how to behave towards him!
By virtue of simply being your husband's wife -- the woman he chose to marry -- you have at your disposal the power to get inside his head, gain access to his heart and become totally irresistible to him. That's a little-known secret that most wives don't know. Getting your husband to worship the ground you walk on is so much easier than you might imagine. Working on yourself and making changes, will intrigue your mate. It will make him curious as to what is going on with you. Your changes will bring about changes in him, and it will happen both consciously and un-consciously.
How did it get to this point}? It's never because of just one big disagreement, conflict or fight -- it's never just one huge avalanche or storm, but rather the slow, insidious drip-drip-drip of not understanding your husband day after day, and night after night. It's that constant drip (which wives often ignore) that erodes the very foundation of a marriage, just like the continuous drip of a leaky faucet in the dead of night. Pretty soon, without even knowing it, you’re becoming strangers living in the same house. No Love, No Communication, No intimacy, No anything!!!
You have the power to stop this slow deterioration of your relationship. You must be the one to begin the healing, remember, the man is clueless. He has no idea how serious it's become. He doesn’t know why you’re so unhappy with him. Talking becomes “nagging”, so instead begin to work on yourself, and you may be surprised at the results. If you want to learn how, click here
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